When I see your Facebook posts but questioning to the universe why you are still single...why you can't find love...so on and so forth...
Let me tell you what I want to say, EVERY SINGLE TIME.
First of all I want to tell you you're not alone. There are so many single people just like you that it is overwhelming. Trust me on this one.
Then I want to tell you how wonderful you are. Because let's face it...you are pretty much Mr. Incredible in my eyes.
And then...
It might just get ugly.
I want to scream in your face and wave my arms erratically. I want to slap you with all of the gusto I can muster. I want to throw things at you and tackle you to the ground hard enough to knock you unconscious.
I am secretly doing this right now in my mind.
Why, do you ask?
Because, I wish you could see how much I and those countless other single women want you to see US, the people right in front of you.
I want you to take back your hopes and dreams of the perfect woman.
She doesn't exist.
However...
I exist. Those countless other women exist.
We exist.
We are imperfect. We aren't skinny. We don't have the perfect complexion. We may enjoy sitting on the couch just as much as we enjoy being outdoors. We may want pizza when we should be eating a salad. We aren't models. We don't have our acts together quite yet. We may never have everything figured out completely.
But, again, we exist. Unlike this dream woman you are chasing after.
Do you know how awesome we are?
Probably not.
Do you know how much we would give anything (and I mean ANYTHING) to spend even just one date with you? I mean, seriously...look at how amazing you are!
Who wouldn't want to be your 'one and only'? Who wouldn't want to be by your side through thick and thin, good and bad, and all of the many highs and lows?
Who wouldn't want to be your sweetheart and the one you want to see every morning when you wake up?
Now, I know I cannot control what you are attracted to and what turns you on. However, I know what my dream man is and I have yet to meet him. I've learned to adjust my expectations.
Even you aren't my dream man.
But, (and this is a big one) you are enough.
You are so much MORE than enough!
Through my many muddled experiences I've learned a lot.
I've learned to appreciate the better aspects of who I may end up with.
Attraction is important, yes, but we all change. We will, ALL OF US, not be the same person we were 5, 10, 15, etc years ago (or even as recently as yesterday). Who I am attracted to has changed in ways I never thought possible. And that's ok!
Yes, I want a man who can 'get me going' (how else am I supposed to let you create life with me?), but I also know that it's not just your 'hot body' and debonair good looks that get the job done.
It's your spirit and soul. It's your personality. It's the way you treat me. It's the way you enjoy the things I enjoy. It's the way you hate what I hate. It's the way we may not agree on everything, but can agree to disagree.
I wish you would see me this way as well.
So, while you post about not being able to find love. While you go on and on about how the right one for you may not exist...
Take a minute to see the wonderful women right in front of you who would be so much more than perfect for you if only you'd broaden your horizons, open your eyes and let your heart be just a smidgen more vulnerable.
Maybe, just maybe, you might find the love of your life was by your side the entire time. Wishing and hoping you'd notice her just once.
